Valley Girl explores why friends first doesn't work in real life. I've never been " friends first" with a boy, though the concept is quite fascinating. Even if dating your best friend does work out in real life, it's still not seen someone in such an intimate situation, like sex, you never see them.
But, in addition to knowing that we've created one hell of a mess, I also know that our compatibility as partners versus our compatibility as friends are in completely different stratospheres. However, sometimes when you start dating your best friend, you assume the friendship compatibility will automatically cross over to the partner compatibility, but that's not always the case — if ever the case. Basically, you think you're getting the real deal, but you just might be getting what your best friend wants you to see in the moment.
The problem with that is that no one can keep up a charade forever. It's going to be really awkward to confide in your now-partner about all the things you'd confide in a best friend. Definitely not your best friend, because they're no longer just your best friend!
That's just basic math.